![]() maybe it's like i listened to a bunch of specific subgenres and went like "yeah these all scratch the same itch for me". as a binary trans person i'm not sure where i fit in this analogy. it's a social construct, but we are social people.Īnyway, i hope this makes sense. being plastered with a specific genre can be the kiss of death for your mainstream career, or the thing that pushes you to the top. where are the lines? race? class? culture? all of the above? and this becomes muddier when you look at marketing. a lot of the blues i listen to wouldn't sound out of place next to country artists. ![]() so if someone identifies as a demigirl in some circles but to you they just say they're nonbinary or even just "female", they clocked you as a gender normie lol.Īnd just like gender, genre "doesn't exist", but it still has societal impact. you might as well play the same song twice. what does "cloudgender" mean to you? is it the constantly-shifting state? the association with the weather? the moodiness? the same way two people could have a 6 hour heated discussion about the differences between delta blues and hill country blues, but if you played a charley patton song back to back with an rl burnside song, some people who aren't familiar with blues won't be able to tell the difference. ![]() Like if someone is coming out as cloudgender to you, it's because they think you're someone who can hang and talk about what that means. let's talk about something that has nothing to do with rap or music. Person 2: okay, i have no followup questions. Person 1: i like memphis rap - specifically horrorcore. Like here's an interaction between two hip-hop heads that has never happened: i'd even argue that they're not for binary trans people to understand either, considering it took me this long to understand.īut it seems like when people talk about their gender through the lens of anything that goes beyond just male, female, or even strictly nonbinary, it comes from a place of wanting to discuss the nuances of gender identity. they're not for the cishet majority to understand. That's what a lot of bad faith arguments around nonbinary genders don't seem to realize. because i know they'd know how describing a band as "black metal" is different than describing one as "power metal" or whatever. but if i'm talking to another person who i know is familiar with metal, that's when i feel like i wouldn't be wasting my breath going into specifics. and if my grandma asks, i'll just say "rock". The thesis of this post started to prickle in my head when i saw genderqueer mutuals of mine reblogging that post that was like "what is the gender identity you describe yourself as around cis people, and what's the specific one you actually identify as?" reading through people's responses and the way they described the nuances of their genders made me goīecause if i'm listening to altar of plagues and my coworker asks what kind of music i'm listening to, i'm just going to say "metal". Sometimes (in less than positive circles) i'll see bad faith arguments against people with these genders like "the census isn't going to mark you down as 'catgender' lmao" which is annoying because i've never seen anyone say that? and that's just because my gender journey has been different. obviously i'll still support them, but i had trouble understanding. So as a binary trans person, i often had a difficult time understanding the really specific genders and gender identities i'll see. Here's that longer post, but keep in mind i'm halfway through a bottle of soju rn ![]() You might have to try some different things before you find one that works, but once you have a system in place that works for you, things should get easier. Maybe it looks like introducing mindfulness or meditation practices into your day to help you slow down and be more focused when there are things you have to do. Maybe it looks like getting into the habit of double-checking things or asking someone to check things for you to make sure there aren’t any small mistakes. Maybe that looks like getting a planner and making sure you write everything down, or setting alerts on your phone so that you remember to do things, or hanging a whiteboard so you can always see the things you need to do. In terms of what you can do to improve, it’s really about finding a system that works for your brain. It’s okay and expected that you won’t be good at that immediately. You’re transitioning from being a teenager to being an adult, and that means you’re learning how to do lots of things for the first time and that you probably have more responsibilities than you did before. I think that’s a really natural feeling when you’re almost 18 (and frankly, also when you’re 25 and 30, sometimes).
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